Although the helicopter ride was breathtaking and the night away from the kids was refreshing, my favorite part of our anniversary was laying in bed with Aaron, listening to cheesy love songs in the background, and talking about the past nine years. We went through each year-- some of them took longer to remember than others. I thought it would be a great anniversary activity to post pictures and write the memories down, since my husband is at work and my kids are busy turning themselves into aliens. (each has their shirt off and they are taping colored pieces of paper onto their chests... glue didn't work :)
Warning: This post is long, so if you don't want to read it all, that's fine by me.
2000 was a fabulous year for a wedding. I was a 20 year old bride and Aaron was 23... too young to get married, in my opinion. But it's hard to pass up a good thing when you find it. Our wedding was simple. I tried to care about the details, but I didn't know how to. I wore white flat tennis shoes with my dress. I picked up flowers just hours before at a local shop-- I didn't realize a bride "needed" a bouquet. My sisters pinned me down the night before I got married and MADE me wear acrylic nails-- (Deb could do them professionally.) It was 2 am before the nails were finished.. they look pretty in the pictures, but they didn't last more than 24 hours. I ripped those suckers off as fast as I could [ouch.] Aaron and I weren't big fans of posing around the temple grounds taking pictures, but now I wish I had more. The candid ones are my favorite. It was before digital era and none of them are great quality. Oh well. It was a wonderful day and we were surrounded by the people we love. We had no money, no car, no plans for the future. We both felt strongly there were babies waiting to come and for some reason we never stressed about it... even while thinking about all the years of school we had yet to accomplish. Somehow, it just felt RIGHT. That is the best way to describe our wedding day- Perfect, for all the right reasons.
2001 Anniversary one. I was 8 months pregnant with our first baby boy. (Yes, it was planned.) Looking back, it's crazy to think Aaron spent his first year married to a pregnant wife. What a crazy time that was! We were both working 40+ hours per week AND going to school full time at BYU. We had opposite schedules. I worked during the day and went to school at night and he had classes in the morning and didn't get home from work until 11 pm. Life was insane, but we didn't know any different. We were happy to be together and were working hard to save for our little family.
We spent our anniversary at the Provo temple doing sealings. We talked about going out to dinner or spending the night at a hotel, but we were either too cheap or too tired.. or both. We ended up making a homemade dinner and moving our mattress into our living room and watching a movie together. It wasn't the most spectacular night ever-- but we knew there would be a time and place for that. I don't know if there is anything I could have done at 8 months pregnant that would have been romantic. We had survived our first year and were about to embark on parenthood. Ben was born 2 weeks later and we could not have asked for a better anniversary present.
2002 We were out of school for the summer and trying to enjoy the busy life with a toddler. My parents offered to take Ben for the night AND paid for our hotel getaway. How could we say no? We spent our first night away from our son and to this day it was one of our most romantic getaways. The next day, we lived it up at Utah's amusement park, Lagoon. I am a HUGE rollercoaster fan and was so looking forward to riding all the big rides-- including the bunging jumping/free-falling ride that cost extra $. For some odd reason, EVERYTHING made me sick. I literally had to lay down on the grass after every ride to keep from throwing up. I was a total party pooper and wanted to leave the park before it closed (which is against my life motto.) Later that night, I decided to take a pregnancy test and it was positive! Baby #2 was on his way (This was not planned :) Luke was born 8 months later. Do we know how to live up our first two years of marriage or WHAT?
Oh, and I must mention that even though I was a loser that day, Aaron was not. He won a HUGE stuffed animal dog for me after playing one game. We had to carry it around all afternoon, but I always wanted to be the girl that had a man who won her big prizes. Or something like that . The dog made a perfect present for Ben's first birthday. It was at his big party two weeks later we announced to our families that we were expecting baby #2.
2003 Three years of marriage with two kids under two. Aaron finished his bachelor's degree a few months earlier and I had a couple of weeks left before graduation. We spent June 16th eating dinner at Pier 49 pizza as a family. Ben was running around the table and Luke wanted to be held the entire time. Not romantic but very--- normal.
The following weekend, we decided to venture to Park City and go camping. This was our first of many family camping trips. Ben was obsessed with the fire and literally danced around the flames. Luke was only four months old and we had to keep socks on his hands because he was so cold. We were the only campers at this particular camp ground and it was great. Because we were out in the middle of nowhere, I allowed Ben to ride on my lap to drive the garbage to the dumpsters. That was a huge mistake. For MONTHS after that camping trip, he begged to drive the car. I told him he can only do it when we're camping and now it has become a tradition. Luke always takes me up on the offer, but Ben has since become cautious and usually doesn't want to drive. And we all know how Zack feels about driving. He takes it upon himself to get behind the wheel whenever possible-- camping or in busy post office parking lots.
2004 This will go down as one of our worst anniversaries.. actually, you can say the whole year was a bust. After we finished our undergraduate degrees in Provo, we moved to Salt Lake for a couple of months. While we were living in my parents' basement, Aaron found out that he didn't get accepted to any of the law schools he was hoping to. We were in limbo. We ended up moving to Arizona (with Aaron's parents) thinking we would go to school either in Vegas, AZ or California. But after months of indecision, we were still clueless with when/where we would go to school. Aaron was offered a scholarship to Gonzaga University in Spokane, WA. When he first received the letter, he tossed it thinking it wasn't an option. But the more we narrowed down the schools and visited campuses, the more confused we were. In May 2004, Aaron found the letter from Gonzaga and talked to me about the possibility of going to school up north. I was up for anything, but didn't realize that he wanted to start the summer program-- which was only 2 weeks away. Somehow, without ever touring the school or making a trip to Spokane, we were driving a moving van 1400 miles to a place we'd never been. The summer semester started in early June. The school put us in an apartment for three days-- and we rushed to find a place to live. Aaron was officially a law student one week when our anniversary arrived. I wasn't expecting anything fancy, but thought we could go out to dinner as a family. He called me from campus and said, "I have 30 pages to read before I can leave." To me, that meant he would be home within the hour. Little did I know that reading 30 pages of statutes and court cases meant he had several hours to go. We only had one car at the time and I literally paced around the house. When he finally arrived home, I was so upset. We decided to head to the park and let the kids play while we fought :) It was my first dose of being a law school widow... and Aaron quickly learned his lesson about being more specific when he called. These pictures weren't taken on our anniversary (I don't think I was smiling that night) but they were taken in our backyard sometime in June 2004. I can't get over how cute Luke was-- he was such a rolley-polley toddler. The weather was SUCH a shock to our system, especially coming from AZ. I believe we wore pants all summer long.
2005 St. George, UT. It was one of the best summers to date. Aaron got an internship working with one of the most laid-back, coolest attorneys ever. Aaron didn't set an alarm all summer.. he wore shorts to work and came home everyday for lunch. It was a 4-month vacation that paid well! We lived in an empty student apartment building on campus at Dixie college (all the students were gone for the summer and we needed something furnished.) It was awesome because we literally had our own private pool. We swam all day, everyday. This is where our 2 and 3 year old boys learned to swim like fish. What a summer! We still dream of moving back, but we have to constantly remind ourselves that it will never be as awesome as that summer was. Those were the days of no responsibility!! The week before our anniversary, we took a long trip to California with Aaron's parents. We did it all-- Sea World, Disney, the zoos.. it was a fab trip. The bottom picture was taken at the San Diego temple. I was three months pregnant with Zack and although I felt pretty good, I was suffering from a terrible short haircut. I will never go short again-- it was so much work and it never looked good. My motto from now on is: If it's long enough for a ponytail, it's long enough for me. *Our actual anniversary day was spent in St. George two days after our Cali trip. My parents came to visit and Aaron and I went to the temple... I don't have any pictures to show for it.*
2006- Three little boys in six years of marriage. Aaron had just finished his second year of law school and spent the summer working for an attorney in Spokane. We celebrated our anniversary at Silverwood amusement park-- Washington's version of Six Flags. Aaron was in charge this year and I didn't know where we were going until we arrived at the park. Despite the freezing cold weather-- (notice the jackets, blankets, sweaters) we had a good time. We spent the morning watching the kids on airplane rides. Aaron and I were cursing all day that we didn't get a babysitter to come with us so we could ride the BIG KID rides! And then we did the unthinkable. We parked Zack in the stroller and told Ben and Luke to be in charge of the baby.. at no time could they let go of the stroller handle.. And then we left them while we rode a ride. Now, don't freak out, we could see them at all times-- it was one of those rides that shot you straight up in the air. I don't know how long we waited in line, probably about ten minutes. When we finally got on the ride, we insisted that we sit on the side facing our kids (as if that somehow makes us responsible.) As the ride shot us in the air, I kid you not, our little boys were watching us and waving... while yelling, "Hi Mom! Hi Dad!" We were SO embarrassed because here were these three kids, completely isolated from any adults, ratting us out. We kept telling them to be quiet and not point and wave at us, but they were just being good kids, waving at their parents riding a ride. As soon as we got off, we ran to them and spanked them for embarrassing us. No, we did not. We thanked our lucky stars that they didn't let go of the stroller the entire time AND that no one came along and stole our perfectly-behaved children. By lunch time, it was POURING rain... we were all drenched, the rides were flooded and the park closed early. I believe this is when I really started to dislike Washington. After living through 6 months of winter, couldn't we just have ONE warm day in June? Nope..
2007 Warmer weather we
finally had.. our first summer in Las Vegas. Zack was six months old before I lost a single pound of baby weight. I blame it on the cold weather. I think I was probably depressed in WA. But after a couple of months of sun therapy, it melted off. Or maybe it was stress. Our first summer out of law school was brutal. Aaron had to take a summer class BEFORE he sat for the bar-- all completely unexpected and totally nerve-wracking. He spent two weeks in Oregon while I stressed about him. And then he came home to take the Nevada bar without the time/sleep/studying he needed. This was the closest I have ever been to a nervous breakdown. Somehow we made it through and miraculously, he passed the bar. This picture was taken in June on Father's Day. We weren't really able to relax or chill (we did go out to dinner the night of our anniversary) but the real celebration came in August. We kept telling ourselves through the summer that if we saved and worked hard, we would get a 10 day vaca in Hawaii. It totally paid off. It was the best 10 days of our married life. I thought it would be difficult leaving the kids-- I had never been away from them for more than one night. But once we were on that plane across the ocean, their names did not cross our lips.

Hawaii was a dream. It was exactly what we needed after three (I mean 7) stressful years of school. We were asked so many times if we were on our honeymoon, but we were proud to say that we had been married 7 years and had three boys at home. That was so much better (and more romantic) than being newlyweds! Ben called us one night at our hotel and he was really worried about us dying in a hurricane (he saw on the news that it might hit our island.) We talked to him for a minute and asked him if he could make it a few more days without us. He took a deep breath and said, "Sort of." It was heartbreaking... but as soon as we hung up the phone, we shrugged it off and said, "Let's go snorkeling!" We were laughing on our walk to the beach that we could be such insensitive parents, but we were hundreds of miles away on a beautiful tropical island-- why waste the day missing our kids? There's no place like Hawaii.. there's no place like Hawaii... That trip will always hold special memories. We talk about going back ALL of the time. Hopefully, we will be able to do it again... when we win big on the Vegas slot machines!
2008 Aaron planned this getaway and it was perfect. How can you top Hawaii? (which I often point out, happened on my year to plan :) My little sister watched our boys while we celebrated the Vegas-lifestyle. We ate at a beautiful restaurant, The Top of the World at the Stratosphere. We had dessert while the sun set in the desert. It was the most expensive meal we've ever had-- I hope we NEVER pay that much for food again. It was really fun to splurge.. although we had to breath in and out several times during the meal. Then we went up to the top of the building and rode the thrill rides (I am starting to see a trend in the way we celebrate.) And we learned the lesson the hard way, there is NO reason to spend so much money on good food when you're going to throw it up a couple of hours later.. but the Big Shot is worth it. We had all night passes so we could ride until we could ride no longer. And we did. After the fancy celebration, coming home to THIS card was the highlight of our 8th anniversary.

2009. Nine years- living in nine different places (and four different states.) Here we are enjoying the adult life... our first home, a tight budget, growing kids, career ups and downs, car problems, hilarious dinner-time conversations, dentist appointments, and ever-changing schedules. Our wedding day seems like yesterday, but this is just a fraction of the time we will spend together. Although Aaron and I have been through a lot, we have been tremendously blessed. We have three adorable little boys and another on the way. I could NOT be happier about the weight I am gaining or the changes our little family with have to undergo with a new addition. Life is good. There will be surprises and hard times ahead, no doubt. But as we spend less time worrying about what we don't have and more time being grateful for all DO have, I know we will continue to find happiness in the day-to-day-mundane routine. Before we know it, Aaron and I will be wrinkled, old-fogies, sipping
piña coladas on the beaches of Hawaii- wishing we were changing diapers and chasing superheros around the house. I only hope I can appreciate the NOW and not wish it away. It doesn't get better than this, folks. Not in my book.