Thursday, June 9, 2011

living on the ledge

one of these boys is NOT a good influence on the other....


Climbing the ledge of the upstairs banister is super dangerous, for any skilled 5 year old. I shudder just thinking about my 18 month old, wearing only a diaper, scaling across this tiny ledge with his little feet. I am so grateful they are both okay. That Zack is mighty influential. And Simon is super brave!

Yesterday, I caught Zack dancing in his bedroom in front of our eight year old neighbor girl.. completely naked.

A few hours later, he was unloading the dishwasher. When he was just about finished he turned to me and said with a big happy grin, "The only things left in the dishwasher are things you can murder people with."

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

gripen

Pregnancy {really} is such a miraculous thing. Either it's gotten worse for me each time or I've forgotten how bad it was with my first couple. I don't want to complain or anything, but it really does a number on me. I can't believe I'm still nauseous 22 weeks along. Yesterday was a bad day-- when evening came, I was so looking forward to getting some sleep. Sad to say, it wasn't a restful night whatsoever. I spent a good hour (from 3-4 AM) in the bathroom hugging the toilet. My kind husband was awake during that time too.. trying to help however he could. After the intense vomit-session, Aaron brought me up a cold glass of water. I had one sip and couldn't handle any more. I kept asking him if it was really just water and he continued to say yes. It tasted like syrup-- so sweet and sugary. That will tell you how strong the acids are in my tummy... throwing up burns my esophagus and makes my throat feel like it's on fire.. and afterward water tastes like kool-aid. If you need more detail on my adventures in puke, I'd be happy to email you directly. Oh, and remind me to tell you about my bladder problems... (I pee my pants often.)

One of the more difficult things for me during pregnancy is my lack of motivation to talk to others-- strangers, close friends, family members. I am using up all my energy to take care of my kids, there's just nothing left over for socializing. I honestly have to force myself out the door to go somewhere... if it's not because I am feeling sick, it's because I just don't want to talk to anyone. Once I get out, I am counting down the time until I can go home and crawl back into my cocoon. It's not that I am feeling shy, I am usually annoyed.. and I hate feeling like that. It's not just out in public either, I find myself getting super agitated with my kids too. If they talk too close to me or chew something too loudly, I have to restrain myself from freaking out. Last week, we met Aaron for lunch and he could tell I was not very excited to be out in public, especially with the kids. He said he can always tell a big difference in my personality when I am pregnant. I am less patient, snappier with the kids, unenthusiastic about everything I do... (etc, etc.) Of course the conversation bothered me and I told him that he doesn't know half of it. For everything I am verbally acknowledging, there are ten things that are annoying me that I am not talking about. Everybody better watch themselves... I own a staple gun.

I could rant and whine all day, but I must go. My toddler is using the duster to paint the wall with toilet water. Happy Tuesday, folks.

Monday, June 6, 2011

children's books I love.

classic picture books that are worth buying (to read over and over again):

The Giving Tree
The Little Red Hen
Grimm's Fairy Tales
Aesop's Fables
The Emperor's New Clothes
Anything Dr. Suess
Hansel and Gretel
Jack and the Beanstock
The Little Engine that Could
The Ugly Duckling
The Princess and the Pea
Three Billy Goats Gruff
Rumpelstiltskin
Three Little Bears/Pigs

These books each have a moral or value to teach the kids. There are hundreds more, but that is a quick list of our favorites.

Classic chapter books we've read together in the last year:

The Wonderful Wizard of Oz
*Great Expectations
Where the Red Fern Grows
*Rip Van Winkle
Pinocchio
Winnie-the-Pooh series
The Wind in the Willows
Little Women and Little Men (my boys liked Little Men better, I favor Little Women :)
The Christmas Carol
*Oliver Twist
Chicken Little
Robin Hood
Anne of Green Gables (a favorite of all of ours... yes, even the boys!)
The Swiss Family Robinson
Fabelhaven Series
*Robinson Crusoe
The Legend of Sleepy Hollow
Black Beauty
Ender's Game
The Chronicles of Narnia (we only read one and two)
*Gulliver's Travels
The Hiding Place
Laddie
*Moby Dick
Stuart Little
Peter Pan

I chose to read books this year that I had never had a chance to read myself... it made it more enjoyable for me because I wanted to know (along with the kids) what would happen next! The books with the * weren't the original works, but children's adaptation from the classic book. We've found them to be awesome-- and they usually have pictures to go along. We use the Great Illustrated Classics given to us by my mother.. After you read the story from these books, the originals are much easier to tackle!

Last night we started The Secret Garden. Because the weather is just so warm and breezy, we headed out to the trampoline with blankets, pillows and a flashlight. I was only planning on reading the opening chapter, but we couldn't stop until chapter four. Ben said in the middle of chapter three, "This is better than I thought it would be. I was worried it was only going to talk about flowers." After reading, I remembered I had extra glow sticks in the kitchen and decided now was the best time as any to use them. The kids partied all night out there. No, literally... they fell asleep and slept outside. Well, Ben came in around midnight because he wasn't comfortable and Zack came inside around 3 am. Luke made it until the sun came up this morning.

Our master bedroom window is directly above the trampoline in the backyard. As we turned off our lamps, Aaron and I could hear the boys giggling outside. It reminded me of all the sleepless nights my siblings and I had on a trampoline just like this one. My parents would sleep with their deck door open and my dad would always stick his head out and tell us to "Be Quiet!" I rather enjoyed going to sleep to the sound of giggling, rambunctious boys. This is exactly what childhood is all about. Too bad I am too old and pregnant to sleep with outside with them.



Hope this list helps, Terica!
*ps. We never, ever, ever read with the baby awake. I also have been known to exclude any child (zack) who is being naughty during reading time. It's a mean punishment to send the to bed while the rest of us are having a reading party, but it's been a quick cure to bad behavior. Sometimes I still have to give warnings, but they are usually very quiet while I read...

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Happiness is Homemade

just when I think life will slow down, a million little (and some big) responsibilities land in my lap. We've been super busy around these parts. Home improvement projects, end of the "school year" activities, church assignments, and family coming in town EVERY weekend to visit. Just after Cindy and Matt left yesterday, we calendared out the rest of June... and life isn't going to slow down any time soon. We have had (and will continue to have) a rotating door on our guest room. As soon as I wash the sheets from the previous visitors, someone new is here to stay! And we love it!

Needless to say, I have been feeling MUCH better. I am still throwing up a few times a week, but nothing compared to a few months ago. The baby is moving and kicking all of the time and I have so much more energy-- which I am sure is exactly why I am going overboard in the house cleaning/home improvement projects. It's like I've been trapped in my own personal cage for 4 months and someone has finally let me out! I have been cooking up a storm and I know everyone in my house is happy about it. In fact, this morning before church, Ben and I were cutting up potatoes and carrots for the meal afterward. He paused for a second and said, "I am so glad you're feeling better!" I thought it was such a genuine and sweet comment. Then he followed it up by, "It seems like all you wanted to do before was lay around all day." He has really had to pick up the slack around the house and I am sure he's ready for a break! and I am thrilled to give it to him.

Speaking of household responsibilities-- I was talking with a few friends the other night about the dreaded chore of bringing in groceries from the car. I was telling them to wait just a few more years until their children are old enough to carry them in for you. My kids are SO good about unloading the car when we get home from any errand running... one of the girls jokingly asked if my boys put all the groceries away and separate the meat when I buy it in bulk. "No they do not," I answered. "But that is a brilliant suggestion." Last week, my boys had their first tutorial on how to separate raw meat. I was there for it all, but didn't have to touch a single slimy breast! yay for me!


The wall hanging in the background of these pictures has been in my kitchen for the past few months. It reads "Happiness is Homemade". I have known that to be true for some time now, but it seems like recently I've savored these little moments I have with my children. They are growing so tall and mature. Ben will turn ten next month and that blows my mind. They're not going to be around much longer and I am trying to cherish all the little memories we are making together.

We finished reading Peter Pan last week. What a fabulous, beautifully written story. We've all seen in it cartoons, but there is something about the written word that brings a different perspective to life. I absolutely LOVED what I got from the book. In fact, during the last few chapters, I had to keep myself from bursting out in tears. It's such a simple make-believe story, but there is truth in the pages and it spoke to me. Wendy's role in Neverland was so poignant, so powerful. She was brought to Neverland to become Mother to all of the Lost Boys. Before she came, they didn't know what a bedtime story was. She tucked them in at night and gave them their medicine (which was usually water) but somehow it always made them feel better. Captain Hook and his pirates were so jealous that they wanted to capture Wendy and keep her for their own Mother. Everyone needs a Mother!

This story made me grateful for the loving, nurturing mother who raised me. She was up EVERY morning before school cooking me a hot breakfast. At times, I felt annoyed that she was shoving scrambled eggs and toast in my lap when I was trying to dry my hair... and I am ashamed of myself now for being so unappreciative of her early morning labors. But now as I am a Mother, I understand how important it is to be there... to let your children know that you will always be there, no matter what. They will eventually grow up and leave the nest, but you will still ALWAYS be their Mother. And for that I am so grateful.

The only thing I have been able to do well these past few months is read to my children. I don't know what it is about crawling into bed next to them and reading a meaningful or silly or sometimes emotional story that makes me feel so warm inside, but I think it has something to do with the fact that Happiness is Homemade. When I am reading a story aloud- I feel as though I am doing the very thing I was sent here to do. To me, it's a real apology for snapping at them early that morning or making them do the dishes when they would rather play all day long. It doesn't matter what the story is or how long I read, it matters that I stop whatever I am doing that I think is important and say goodnight properly. Of course, it doesn't happen every night, but I've realized that I've yet to regret a single night I've read to my kids. There are plenty of other things I've done late at night that are not worthy of my time, but reading a classic book aloud to my children is one of the most time-worthy things I can do as a Mother.

A little while ago, I was emailed by a friend (hi Terica!) who asked me for advice on what books to read to her children this summer. I never got a chance to respond, and I wish I had the time to do so now-- but my husband is finally home and my kids are begging to do something as a family. so stay tuned for a list of my favorite books to read. If I don't get around to it any time soon, pick a book- any book- off the shelf and start reading! I promise you won't regret it.

Thursday, June 2, 2011

today's check list

wake up early and walk the dog. strike one.
sweep and mop the floors. check.
go to Home Depot for the third time in three days. check.
put knobs on all the bathroom cabinets. check.
fix the toilet paper holder in the boys bathroom. check.
change 8 poopy diapers. check.
bathe the red-bummed baby 3 times. check.
shower and get ready. strike two.
wash and fold a few loads of laundry. check.
watch Can't Buy Me Love while folding laundry. half check.
take a nap. check.
finish the ward newsletter. check.
listen to the boys' reports on their favorite animals. check.
staple the loose material under the couch. check.
return the redbox movies that we've had for too long. check.
make an appointment with a new midwife. check.
quiz on times tables. check.
make breakfast, lunch and dinner. check.
enjoy talking to my husband for 20 minutes in between work and church. check.
buy a bag of Sonic ice. check.
wash the sheets in Cindy's old room for her return. check.
read the last chapter of Peter Pan to the kids. check.
say family prayer. check.
kiss my little men goodnight and tuck them in their beds. check.
go to bed at a decent hour. check.
blog with pictures. strike three. I'm out.