not this cute anymore!Thursday night is Aaron's night to do whatever he wants. This usually means that he stays at work late and then plays volleyball until the wee hours of the morning. For some reason, even though Aaron doesn't come home, it always seems LESS chaotic. Now, don't get me wrong. I love my husband and can't wait to see him walk through the door.. but the anticipation before he gets home drives me crazy. It's the uncertainty that kills me.. getting dinner on the table (but not too soon, or it will be cold).. getting the house clean for him.. and hoping that he doesn't recognize that I am in a bad mood. When I plan on him being home at a certain time and he's 20 minutes late, it's seriously the end of the world!! But when I know he's not coming home... it's a party. Am I totally crazy or do you agree with me? I honestly think laws school was easier for me because I didn't count on him to do anything, but I have totally turned into the nagging wife since he's started working and he's not sure what to do with me. I don't get it.
Anyway, tonight (since we were on "vacation") we invited some of our favorite homeschooling friends over to play. These kids are not only the cutest kids on the block, but they are the nicest and the smartest! We really love having them over. We played on the trampoline, made a hut AND got tattooed- Peter Pan style.
Anyway, tonight (since we were on "vacation") we invited some of our favorite homeschooling friends over to play. These kids are not only the cutest kids on the block, but they are the nicest and the smartest! We really love having them over. We played on the trampoline, made a hut AND got tattooed- Peter Pan style.
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I must agree- the anticipation of when the husband comes home is torture! You look great in pink!!
Glad to know it isn't just me that finds it less stressful when you know he wouldn't be home unitl late.
It is so true! When you don't expect them to be home, you don't have that, okay where is he mind frame. Also, it's nice to know you don't have to cook a complete grown up dinner!
i'm so glad there are other wives out there that i can relate to! yes, it is somewhat stressful creating that welcoming environment, with dinner on the table, a clean house, and a bow in my hair, ok, no bow, but maybe some clothes, other than sweats and an old osmond boys t-shirt. i love serving my husband, but sometimes it is nice to have "free" days. on the other hand, if every day was a free day, i'd be in trouble. my husband went away on a business trip for a few days and we had pizza and ice cream every day. my kids loved it, but i felt pretty gross by the time he got home! my cooking is so much better, because i have a hubby to worry about and that's a good thing! of course it's nice to have my husband around, but sometimes it does feel like another person you need to take care of, and after a long day of "child rearing", it can be hard to keep giving. i swore i'd never be a nagger, but i don't think men really understand how hard it is to be a mom and a good mom at that. if only my husband could have a week alone with my children and keep the house clean at the same time! my husband is pretty good with helping out, but he definitely needs "friendly reminders". my husband is also very busy, working 8 hour days, mon-sat in the winter and 12-16 hour days, mon-sat in the summer, so i don't expect him to do too much around the house, but i think it's important that he still helps out, especially for our children's sake and my sanity! Sometimes all i need is for him to put a couple loads of laundry in or unload the dishwasher to lift that overwhelming feeling that sets in when the housework seems to be falling way beind and the laundry pile could be used as a sledding hill. i think it makes me feel more appreciated when he helps out to. anyways, thanks for the thoughts and the honesty janet!
I totally "let my hair down" if I know my hubby won't be home til late or not at all. I wonder why we always want to make things perfect for them? having a family is crazy and they are apart of that so i have been trying not to stress lately if things are in total disarray (which they mostly are). But, yeah, I think you got used to doing whatever you wanted with your kids and not worrying about entertaining him. Fun.
I have decided that I work too as a full time, homeschool, wannabe medic, taxidriving, caring and try to be loving Mom. I plan dinner for between 6 and 7. hopefully he will get home to eat with us. If the house and I am in disaray so be it. I get no breaks or a lunch {isn't there a law} so all I can say is I am doing my best at trying to do it all and I look like it, so does my house.
I'll agree-I hate the not knowing what time he'll walk through the door feeling, it seems like anytime I actually decide to ensure that dinner is ON the table and READY when he gets home are the days when he calls while I am literally putting dinner on the table expecting him to walk in the door and states that he is walking out of the office...there is nothing so frustrating-especially after a long day.
I will agree that I think that law school WAS easier in the fact that I had the mindset that my hubby was busy doing other things and even when he came home he had work to do, so when he did come home it was a great thing! I guess I just had the mindset after he started working that there wasn't anymore 'homework' and that his time at home would be 'my time'-so when he is late, it cuts out of 'my time' or when he comes home exhausted I am thinking 'what did you do all day but sit in the stinkin' chair at your office and type on the computer?' but I am finding that if I adjust MY perspective a little it helps us all to be more efficent at anticipating what each other needs...for instance I try to make sure that everything is ready to go for dinner so that it will only take 20 min. from the moment he walks in the door until we are all sitting down eating...Water starting to boil, lasagna in the oven...that way I am not getting so upset-the plus side to this is that I get an extra pair of hands in the kitchen or I get the kids occupied for a few minutes so that things CAN get done. The other thing that I have found is that when my tasks seem to be piling up, I pick 3 or 4 at the MAX (and ensure that they are EASY enough to complete them all within 45 min for instance: sweep the kitchen floor, wash the mirrors in the kid's bathroom, and Take out all the garbage in the house) and email them to my hubby for his honey do list for the day...that way I get a few extra things done off of my list for that day, or the next, and I don't feel like I am constantly nagging because "I'm the only one cleaning." The nice thing about emailing them to him DURING the day is that he also comes home REALIZING that the recliner isn't really in view yet, that I need his help, but after he finishes the things I've asked him he's free and clear to play and relax like he needs to as well.
Oh man. Do I ever relate! My husband is gone Sunday night through Fri morning every week. When I know he's not there to help me, I tough it out. I plan life simpler. I kind of run my own show. Then when the weekend comes, we LOVE having him, and then I remember why it's been so hard all week. I have to adjust our routine and consult his thoughts/feelings and factor that in. And sometimes that's tiring! And I actually get LESS done when he's around than during the week, even though we have more hands. That said, I sure don't have as much fun. Having him around is the best ever. I just honestly plan NOT to be as productive. It's family time and the more I can do ahead of time (laundry, shopping, etc.) the better. Getting sick throws that off, but we try. Very interesting. When hubby isn't there, I get more 'me' time at night. And that's nice! I think as women it's all about your expectations. I survive the dinner hour when I know he's not coming. When I expect him...watch out. I'm a mand woman!
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