not this cute anymore!All 6 of us were laying on the mattress on the ground, Aaron next to me, the boys jumping from the couch to the mattress. Everyone was giggling and even though I know things aren't perfect, I believe this is as good as it gets. It's crazy to think that just a few years ago (can 12 be considered a few?) Aaron and I barely knew each other. Now, here we are, hundreds of miles away from any of our family. We have created a life and family of our own. And it's a beautiful one.
After about an hour of jumping around, we decided to try to calm the troops by putting on a movie-- an episode of planet earth. I could watch these DVDs over and over and never get tired of them. Tonight we watched the lions take down the elephant-- and my boys were absolutely thrilled. I am the only one who hates to watch the predictor catch it's prey... everyone else in my house cheers, including Simon.. I can't wait until our daughter joins the family, I need someone else around who has feelings.
Somewhere in the middle of the film, Ben stops it and says, "I can't believe we forgot to tell you this! When we were at recess a few days ago, there were two donkeys in the field..." (they go to a school in a city where wild donkeys roam freely..) He continues, "One donkey was on TOP of the other one. Well, it's two front legs were on top of it's back and they were stuck together!" I asked him what the other donkey was doing and he said, "It was trying to get away, but the one on top just kept moving wherever the one on the bottom went." Luke was in on the story now and said, "Yeah! It was so crazy."
I figure we probably should have THE TALK with them now that they are going to public school... but I am not sure if I am ready. How do you know if you/your kids are ready??? If we wait too long, one of their classmates will give them the sex rundown... or a couple of donkeys will act it out for them. I just want them to hear it from us before anyone else. We're not going to be able to keep them innocent and naive forever, although sometimes I wish I could.
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8 years old. My daughter started asking questions when she was 6 years old and I was pregnant. We answered all of the questions except "how does the sperm actually get to the egg". We told her that it was very exciting and when she was 8 years we would have a special mommy/daddy/daughter date and we would tell her all the rest of the story. We are planning on presenting it fairly straight forwardly, and explaining that is how animals do it too. My husband received a version of this talk every year from the time he was 8 until 11. When the kids turned 12 then they start meeting boys with dad and girls with mom, so they can get some more gender specific council. Then when they go off to college, they have another mom and dad and kid talk where they talk about how proud they are of their (sexual) choices as a teenager and express confidence in their abillity to continue to make good choices as an adult. THEN, after we were engaged, my husbands dad talked to him about married sex (appropriate expectations for beginners etc), and even more helpful, his mom talked to him about sex from a womans perspective (patient, gentle etc). I grew up with NO sex talks. We are going with my husbands' parents approach. . Much healthier.
Good Luck. Generally I find from talking to friends girls wonder about these things sooner than boys.
Beth
we just had the talk with mara a week or so ago. i have a funny book that the kid read aloud with you that explains it all. It worked well for us- you are welcome to borrow it and see what you think. I agree with Beth's comments- open and early talks is the best!
HOW DOES THE SPERM ACTUALLY GET INTO THE EGG?????
thanks for your comments. I think girls do ask questions earlier than boys because we've been waiting and have tried a few times to casually give a hint here and there but they are still so clueless. Anyway, I appreciate your thoughts.
Sara, I would love to borrow your book... I've heard of a few people who use picture books, which I really think would help.
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