not this cute anymore!On Tuesday, my sweetest, dearest friend, Jane, lost her baby. We have been anticipating the birth of her third boy for weeks now. Jane has been so patient and strong waiting for labor to happen naturally, but after many contractions and little progress, she made an appointment for a c-section. On the drive to the hospital, she felt him kick. When she was finally checked into the triage room and was hooked up to a monitor, they couldn't find his heartbeat.
I received a call as she was prepping for surgery and arrived at the hospital just before the procedure was finished. I witnessed the heartbreak of these amazing parents and loving grandparents hold their stillborn baby. I was humbled to hold him too. He was beautiful and perfect in every way. In my 32 years of life I have never been a part of anything so devastating and emotional.
For the past three days, I have been trying to help my sweet friend, who has been there for me so many times when I have felt alone. They have such an amazing support system of family and friends and it's so hard knowing that we can't do anything to fix the problem. We can only cry along with them and let them know how much we love them. Today is Jane and Rick's wedding anniversary. Jane had asked me a few weeks ago if I would watch her older boys overnight while she and her husband celebrated a quiet evening with the baby. Yesterday as Jane and I walked the halls of the hospital, we cried as we talked about how things don't turn out the way you imagine. I love and admire her so much more after watching her go through this experience. And I know that she and her husband will be celebrating their marriage with a new kind of strength that they've developed over the past few days. It's been a sacred experience watching these two cling together through such a trial.
They will bury their sweet little boy in Salt Lake in a couple of days. Aaron and I will drive up to Utah today to spend time with my siblings and be there for the funeral services on Monday. Please keep their family in your thoughts and prayers and hold your babies a little tighter.
For those interested in contributing to the memorial trust to help Jane's family defray the costs of the funeral and other related expenses, the information is below.
Adam Samuel Harris Memorial Account
Mountain America Credit Union
Account #9338463
4810 W. Desert Inn Road, Suite 1 Las Vegas, NV 89102
Las Vegas, NV 89102
Donors may send through mail, by phone with credit card, online with bank-specific bill payment services, or by direct transfers for those who are credit union members.
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I was thinking about you today and how much fun it was to see you. So sorry this has happened you are all in my prayers. You are an amazing person! Love You. Lindy
Love you so much Janet. xoxo
This is so hard. There just never is the perfect thing to say or do for someone going through this. I had a still born 4 years ago and it just hurts, you never knew your heart could litteraly break, or that grief could physically hurt all over. My heart hurts for your friend, I'm sure your love and support for her is just what she needs. There is a book called " Gone too Soon" it's written with an LDS perspective and it helped me ( it still helps me) so much. It's out of print but you can find it used on amazon. I highly recommend it for your friend and for you and anyone else close to her as well. I will pray for your friend, to have the strength she will need through this.
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