not this cute anymore!
A couple of weeks ago, I came across this great site Rocks In My Dryer that does a Wednesday edition of WORKS FOR ME. It's great to get a few tips on how to make life a little easier and more efficient. Each Wednesday a few hundred people link their sites to the WFMW edition and post their own tip for the day. This is what works for me....My husband and I have worked out an awesome system to ensure that I get a little ME time.. It's hard to get a minute alone with a houseful of little kids. If it's not on the schedule, it just doesn't happen at our house. We set up an agreement that Tuesday nights are MY NIGHT to do MY thang. He needs to be home from work at 6pm so I can head out the door. I usually head to a book store to have some quiet time. Sometimes I go grocery shopping, run errands or go to the movies to see the latest chick-flick. It's also easy to plan dinner with friends, a Girls Night Out or other events.. (Homeschooling Moms meeting or church activity) on Tuesday nights without any scheduling conflicts.. because that is my night. And I always look forward to it!
You might think my husband is a Saint for volunteering to do dinner, clean up and bedtime with the kids. But EVERY dad needs a little alone time with the kids. Not only does he get to bond with our boys, but he also appreciates what I do EVERY DAY because he realizes that it aint always easy! And it's a fair deal because Thursday nights are all his. He is able to work late and hook up with guys to play sports or do whatever guys do. I don't expect him home and he usually doesn't come through the door until after midnight.. which is fine with me! The kids and I look forward to Thursday nights because that means I don't really have to make dinner. We usually have a pancake party and make the house a mess! Once the kids are in bed, I have more quiet time to read or take a long bubble bath. It's a win-win anyway you look at it.. and it makes me a much happier mom.
Having alone time is great, but having a night out with the girls is ESSENTIAL. I don't think it's weird to call up a few random friends (or someone you want to get to know better) and say, let's meet at a restaurant and get acquainted. I have had some GREAT times here in Vegas with some fabulous girls.. Tuesday nights are the new Saturday.. and this works for me.
If your husband can't come home or if you are a single mom, get a babysitter, or try swapping kids once a week with a friend. If it's on the calendar, you will make plans to do something fun! It's all about finding some girl time and having a break from Motherhood because it we all know it's the hardest job on earth. A happy mom makes time for herself!
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Hi. I just linked from ROCKS IN MY DRYER and I am loving your blog! I have been reading all your best of posts and I have been laughing my head off! You are so witty and very beautiful.
This tip is great because what mom doesn't need a little time away from the kids? Thanks for the tip and good luck to you and your family. I am sure I will be back soon!
Jenica from Indiana
Thanks for the info from Rocks in my Dryer. This is a blog I'll be reading.
We need to implement your little system at our house. Although I work part-time and am not always home, I feel drained too with all the mothering and working. Man, I wish I lived in Vegas--your crowd looks fun!
This is a great idea, Janet. I'm glad we planned Roxy's for a Tuesday night so that you could come. It was a blast, and I hope to spend many more Tuesday nights hanging out with you on your "night off".
Amen to having a night out WITHOUT the kids. and as much as it's great to go on dates with the hubby, you need some time to do your thing.. or THANG has you refer to it.
You are always having a good time-- no matter where you are and I love that about you!
Damien and I used to do this- Wednesday was my night to myself. The first time it happened, I didn't know what to do with myself. I drove around aimlessly for a while before i finally stopped at Barnes & Noble to pick up my book club's next book, get a cup of herbal tea and a pastry and do some reading without anyone asking me when I would be stopping to do something with/for them.
I agree that it's completely essential.
You have it all together! What fun - I love girl's night out. I think your husband IS a saint. I don't know too many that would make such a deal. Of course he gets his night too - great idea. I'd love to have a group of friends like this.
I love this idea of "scheduling" alone time. Joe always tells me I need to get out more, it just never ends up happening. Scheduling is definitely the way to go.
This is GENIOUS!!!!
Aaron is a SAINT. Way to make time for yourself. So true that you won't do it if you don't plan it. I would like to do something like that but I NEVER know what is going on from week to week with everyone's schedules. I still try to make time for myself though. Jason and I are lucky to have Baylee and Griffin's help.
Thanks for sharing this idea! I like how it's set every week so you can plan around it- our 'night off' seems to fluctuate from week to week- consistency is key!! Looks like fun at Roxy's diner. Did the waitresses sing & dance?
Sweet idea. My Tuesday night off involves going to Young Women's. The most important question is, do you still have to do the dishes when you get home? This would truly be a night off for me.
Damion is great about making sure that I get some "me" time to save my sanity. But I think that it is a fantastic idea to designate one night a week. Love it! Going to talk to Damion about doing it.
Such a great idea!
i wish i could come hang out with you guys. janet you look so good with your long hair, i am loving it on you!
i wish i could come hang out with you guys. janet you look so good with your long hair, i am loving it on you!
we have got to implement something like this in our home. thanks for sharing what works for you. love your ideas.
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