not this cute anymore!
I have been meaning to start writing with the Tuesday Tell All topics for a while now, but this is my first week. I think it will be good to record entries on topics that I wouldn't otherwise write about. This link has a new topic of discussion each Tuesday... this week the subject is-- If you could go anywhere with anyone for one week, who would it be and why.. This answer was easy for me.
As much fun as it would be to head somewhere tropical with my handsome husband, this is not my choice. If I had my wish and could do anything, it would be to spend that time with my grandma Roma, in her quiet little trailer home in Provo. We could spend our week talking and looking at pictures, playing games, swimming at the community pool, feeding ducks at the duck pond, and head to the Hostess bakery shop where I could buy anything I wanted! And even though she would have a comfortable guest room for me to stay in, I would sleep next to her in her bed and play dress ups with her colorful ancient jewelry in the morning. I really don't want to go anywhere exotic or expensive-- I am in need of some major female connection and this would be the perfect getaway!!
I think I am a relatively social person who loves to make new friends and experience new things-- but sometimes it's hard to feel close with other females-- to really feel understood. It's not that I feel like I have to put on a show for anyone and pretend to be someone I am not, but making good connections is not an easy job. And ever since moving away from my family, I think deep down, I have been really lonely. I have lots of fun, trivial interactions with people everyday... but I need more depth. The kind of conversations that make you feel completely comfortable with yourself and at the same time, make you want to be a better person.
As wonderful as Aaron is (I mean, he is an excellent husband in every way) sometimes I feel like we are speaking a different language and wonder if he really gets me. And my kids-- I love them to death, but they are such BOYS and I wish we could do something other than sword fight or make things blow up. I mean, doesn't anyone want to create something in the kitchen or dress up like a princess? I do!! And every time I try to put makeup or fingernail polish on my kids, Aaron grounds me from them. It not that I don't love having 3 of the cutest boys around, but every once in a while, I am in desperate need of girl power.
As much fun as it would be to head somewhere tropical with my handsome husband, this is not my choice. If I had my wish and could do anything, it would be to spend that time with my grandma Roma, in her quiet little trailer home in Provo. We could spend our week talking and looking at pictures, playing games, swimming at the community pool, feeding ducks at the duck pond, and head to the Hostess bakery shop where I could buy anything I wanted! And even though she would have a comfortable guest room for me to stay in, I would sleep next to her in her bed and play dress ups with her colorful ancient jewelry in the morning. I really don't want to go anywhere exotic or expensive-- I am in need of some major female connection and this would be the perfect getaway!!
I think I am a relatively social person who loves to make new friends and experience new things-- but sometimes it's hard to feel close with other females-- to really feel understood. It's not that I feel like I have to put on a show for anyone and pretend to be someone I am not, but making good connections is not an easy job. And ever since moving away from my family, I think deep down, I have been really lonely. I have lots of fun, trivial interactions with people everyday... but I need more depth. The kind of conversations that make you feel completely comfortable with yourself and at the same time, make you want to be a better person.
As wonderful as Aaron is (I mean, he is an excellent husband in every way) sometimes I feel like we are speaking a different language and wonder if he really gets me. And my kids-- I love them to death, but they are such BOYS and I wish we could do something other than sword fight or make things blow up. I mean, doesn't anyone want to create something in the kitchen or dress up like a princess? I do!! And every time I try to put makeup or fingernail polish on my kids, Aaron grounds me from them. It not that I don't love having 3 of the cutest boys around, but every once in a while, I am in desperate need of girl power.
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I find it hilarious that you said you think you are a relatively social person. You are the most friendly, outgoing person I know! BUt I love this post. All women probably feel this way and its comforting to me that you get lonely every once in a while.
I can tell you put a lot of thought into this. That sounds like fun. I understand that need for girl power. Sometimes watching the Miss America pageant just isn't enough.
You are a very strong and powerful woman. I don't think you realize the influence that you have on so many people.
You are a great person. Thanks for challenging me to be a better person.
I would LOVE to go with you to Time Out for Women. RaeLynn and I went to the one in Logan two years ago and it was the BEST! That would be a perfect thing to do for our little Ricks ladies reunion someday soon. Have fun!
I love those. I wish they were coming here. AND I think it is time for you to have your girl. My MIL had 8 boys before she had a girl, yours could be after 3:)!
Dang--I would love to go with you to TOFW. And yeah, living with two boys makes me wish I had a sister. I have sisters-in-law, but it's just not the same...
I just have to say I love reading your blog! You are so creative and make me think about things (other than cleaning my house and changing diapers, that is!). Anyhow, with so much fun stuff going on in Vegas, it almost makes me want to move there. But...that summer weather might just kill me! We'll settle for fun visits every now and then!
I am so there with you, Janet. We've talked about this before...just not finding that one friend who you connect to on a deeper level. I feel really lonely at times too. That time with your Grandma Roma sounds so perfect. I love that that is your choice. I love you and am so, so excited to see you on Saturday!
I wish you lived closer to me! I'm going to TOFW in San Diego!! I've actually got some good girl friends here, after 6 years. We were pregnant together, and have watched our girls grow. But, I don't know what I'll do when we move. I've been really spoiled. I hope you have a girl someday, but think you're the perfect Mom for boys!! You're so kick back and fun! Audrey, is supposed to be my girl, but she insists on being called "Steve," only wears Khakis and wants to play ball or catch snakes. At least I can still dress Alyssa like a girly girl :)
i have loved reading all your recent posts. I hear you so loud and clear on the connection thing. It really takes a lot of time and effort to find someone that really REALLY gets you. But it also takes a certain person. I am crazy lonely and so wish for a mom or grandma or sister getaway. Anyway, loved this post.
You know who my getaway would be with if I could choose anyone. I could honestly say I was not lonely before my Mom past. She was the girlfriend that ALWAYS got me and I could ALWAYS talk too at anytime of day. I miss that like you'd never know but I do know that I have you I can call when I need my spirits lifted!
I concur with all of the above. I have struggled with the question of wether or not my husband gets me, and the answer for me is simply no, but isn't that part of the journey to become like our Father in Heaven. I guess I just have to continue to let him see all the many layers I have{ I am a bit like an onion the smell and all jk} Hopefully he will connect to me on some of the layers and the rest he can only wonder at. Thats what our girl friends are for. Although, I do admit I want to be one with him I think that is what eternity is for. At that point we will be on the same mission without all the worldly interuptions of work, traffic, TV, and all the other stuff that muddles the spirit. Sorry I ramble as I try to work it all out, forgive me. You seem to be right on track. The depth you have comes out in your blog. You have love and the more you love the more our Father opens up his world to us.
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